Our confidence levels play a critical part in our success. High achievers tend to have higher levels of self-confidence myths. Here are seven things that high confidence people tend to believe, and critically, act on.
I am the expert on me
Confidence comes from knowing yourself well. As Dr Seuss said –
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
You know your strengths and you know your weaknesses. Positioning yourself to play from your strengths builds confidence.
I am not broken and so I don’t need to be fixed
When things are not going so well it is easy to start to mentally beat yourself up. Most of us start to pay far too much attention to what we see as our weaknesses, whilst self-confident people understand it is usually driven by circumstances and remain positive.
I already have all the resources I need to succeed
Many people become stuck, unable to move forward because they believe they don’t possess the necessary skills or equipment to achieve their goal. High confidence people know that they are resourceful. It is a case of applying their creativity, patience, resilience or curiosity etc to create the opportunities to move forward.
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas Edison
I can accomplish anything with confidence if I break the task down into small enough chunks
Feeling overwhelmed can be a real confidence destroyer. High achievers are good at recognizing the need to progress one step at a time. Every move forward on achievement of a small chunk is a confidence builder that makes the overall goal feel much more achievable.
“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” Vincent Van Gogh
If what I’m doing isn’t working, do something else
Cutting your losses quickly requires confidence. It is easy to stick with an approach, that we probably feel emotionally connected to, and think working it harder will turn it around. As the results continue to be poor our self-confidence drops and letting go gets even harder.
There is no such thing as failure, only feedback
Listening to feedback is important, but it is also important to remember that feedback is typically just someone else’s opinion. People with high levels of confidence are much better at finding a positive interpretation of feedback and recognizing it for what it is.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas Edison
I am creating my future now
High self-confidence people know that they are largely in control of their own destiny. They see a clear correlation between their own actions and their success. Low confidence people look for excuses.
“Success is a matter of luck: just ask any failure.” Earl Wilson